Thoughts on having a Third Baby

All my life, I wanted to have a big family. I wanted at least 8 children. Actually, 8 daughters.

During Natalie’s first year however, things began to change. I think we were ok with one. It was the hardest and most emotional year of my life. There was a battle in my head. I don’t want her to miss out on the fun of having siblings. I know how fun that is because we are four and I wouldn’t have it any other way. It was so much fun having a brother and two sisters around. But I was also scared because having more children is beyond my (patience and) capacity. It’s just way way way way beyond me. Then after I surpassed the 1st year, my heart started to ache for another child. I felt selfish for not wanting another baby just because it will be hard on my part.

Then last year, I started wishfully thinking we could have another baby. It was October when I was delayed for 2 weeks. I bought some pregnancy tests and it turned out negative. Still, I went to check with my OB. Maybe there was a mistake. I took a blood test and unfortunately it was still negative. I had to hold my tears because I was with my mom. No second baby that time.

The following month though, I was delayed again. I didn’t want to expect anymore because I didn’t want to get hurt once more. But I was too anxious I couldn’t hold my curiosity. I bought some pregnancy tests and this time it turned out positive!!! I had to keep it a secret until I went to my OB. And indeed I was pregnant for with Baby # 2!

Fast forward to when the Little Boy arrived, it was via Emergency CS. I dreaded not giving birth vaginally but we were left with no choice. The recovery period was the hardest. Not being able to move freely, the pain, the breastfeeding hurdles. They were just too much to bear. I can never go thru this again! I swear! This will be the last time. I don’t think I want to be pregnant ever again. I have decided to sell all Natalie’s clothes and all the pink stuff. Because there is not gonna be a 3rd baby for sure, I wanted to let her stuff go.

But now 3 weeks postpartum and almost healed (not exactly back to normal but I feel great already), I am thinking twice whether it’s really going to be the last.

I know it’s pretty crazy. Maybe it’s just hormones. Maybe it’s just the medication. Or maybe I just lack sleep. I don’t know! But whatever God’s will is for our little family, I hope my heart will be ready!

How many kids do you think you can handle? 

Hakab Na! 2017: Busting Out Soon!

Breastfeeding moms in the South, get ready to bust out! Join the South PiNanays as we break down the barriers to sustainable breastfeeding, at Hakab Na! 2017, on August 5 (Saturday), at the Ayala Malls South Park in Muntinlupa City, from 8:30 a.m. to 4:00 p.m.

Hakab Na! is the Philippines’ contribution to the Global Big Latch On, an international celebration of breastfeeding, held in line with World Breastfeeding Week (August 1-7). With this year’s global theme of “Sustaining Breastfeeding Together,” the goal for advocates worldwide is to forge multi-sectoral partnerships to help women sustain successful breastfeeding.

Why sustain breastfeeding? Science tells us that breastfeeding benefits not only babies, but also women, society, the economy, and the environment. Successful breastfeeding is not just a victory for the breastfeeding mother and child, but for sustainable development as well.

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This is South PiNanays’ third year at hosting Hakab Na! for families living south of Metro Manila. More than 200 mom and baby pairs are expected to join this year’s celebration. On the program: expert talks on breastfeeding and parenting, testimonials on overcoming breastfeeding challenges, a mompreneur fair, and the main event– a simultaneous latch- on at 10:30 a.m. Games and other fun activities await participants.

Bust out with us! For registration and more information, hop on over to https://spinhakab2017.eventbrite.com/

See you soon!

By Issa Ocaya-San Jose

My Birthing Story: Nielsen Kristoff

This is how it happened. My birthing story.
July 9, 2017. I woke up around 6am and as I got up I noticed a gush of discharge enough to wet my underwear and shorts. Because I always had issues with leaks, I thought it was just an unusual amount of urine. When we got to church (it was a Sunday), I noticed there was another leak. I was a bit suspicious already because the watery discharge was too much. Then, it hit me. THIS COULD BE MY WATER BAG!!!!
I immediately texted my OB who happens to have a clinic at Healthway ATC in about an hour. We went ahead and had myself checked. Well, it was “the day”. My water bag broke! My heart raced. This is it. Good thing we brought our hospital bag already. I wasn’t expecting it was going to be that day but I just wanted the bag handy, just in case!

We headed to Unihealth Southwoods and I was admitted at around 12pm. Before we got to the hospital, I made sure I had my make -up on! I looked so wasted with my firstborn I couldn’t even post pictures on Facebook. Haha. But then before I was brought to the Labor Room, the nurse asked me to remove them. I just removed my lippy but the nurse said, “Ma’am pati po kilay.” Grrrrr. So there I was in all my pictures, pale and kilay-less.

 

It was a boring 2 hours at the Labor Room waiting for me to dilate. But nothing seemed to be happening so I was induced at 2pm. The nurse left for a while and she saw me in tears when she came back. She thought I was starting to hurt but I told her I was just watching something touching on TV and that contraction hasn’t started. Haha…

I did progress to 5cm after about 2 more hours. My OB and the anesthesiologist came in at that time. Active labor has started and it begins to hurt! Dr Paul (I think was his name) administered the Epidural. He told me he only gave me a test shot and to tell him if it hurt so he could add more dose. He had to add a few more times because I kept complaining. He would ask me how much it hurt from 1 to 10, 10 being the highest. And when I would reply with a 5 or 6, he wouldn’t add a dose. So I’d say it was an 11. But of course he wouldn’t believe me because I could still smile and joke around.

Hours passed and there I was still 5cm at 7pm. They also noticed baby’s heart rate was going down every time I contract so there might be something happening inside. My OB then decided to call my husband and explained the situation. We all agreed it was time for an Emergency CS.

Emergency CS, ladies and gentlemen.

My heart sank. Why??? We weren’t ready for this. but we had no choice. We couldn’t wait any longer.

At 7:44pm, my Little Boy finally said hello to the world!

birthing story

Apparently, his cord was strangled on his leg so there was no way he’d go out vaginally. Unless some miracles happen and he miraculously freed himself from it. But time was of essence. My water bag broke at 6am and he had to be delivered within at least 12 to 16 hours. We waited enough but he couldn’t seem to escape the cord coil.

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Back at the Delivery Room, I awoke from a deep slumber at about 9:30 and heard my son cry. I wanted to jump, shout and dance (seriously!) but I was too weak to even open my eyes! I barely remembered what happened during that short moment.

I just remembered them bringing me to the Recovery Room and for the 2nd time, I saw my Macho Gwapito once more. I breastfed him for a good 30 minutes. It was such a great feeling it still makes me smile now.

Finally at about 12am, I was back to my room (with my Baby) and was reunited with my husband.

It was a painful first night and the nights after that. Caesarean recovery is no easy! More so, it was the start of our sleepless nights.

Today after more than a week, my heart is still full. I cannot fathom why God gave me another beautiful blessing that I certainly don’t deserve. I hope like any mom, that I would be able to be the best that I could be to him and his Ate.

How about you? What is your birthing story?

Irresistible Cheap Homecoming Dresses

Looking for cheap homecoming dresses? Read on!

From where I live, Homecoming usually happens in December. It’s the busiest time of the year. It’s a time of Christmas celebration, family gatherings, or reunions. Needless to say, this is also the time people start looking out for beautiful dresses they can wear for the many occasions they will attend at this time of the year. I believe in the United States, Homecoming usually happens in September or October. Well, it’s already July! Homecoming is going to happen in just a few short months and we should all get ourselves ready to meet our long lost friends and high school buddies.

Lucky you because you don’t even have to leave the comforts of your own home to be able to find a beautiful dress to wear. You can shop online for cheap homecoming dresses that will surely wow your friends (and yourself!). A quick search on Google will bring you to a wide range of selections. But because I want you to save time and energy, I have here a beautiful collection of dresses you can find at 27dress.com. They offer inexpensive yet beautiful creation for any occasion. I particularly love a short homecoming dress. Although they are short,  the intricate style and design make you look absolutely fab!

Just take a look at all these beautiful dresses?! Aren’t they super gorgeous?

 

What’s more there is an ongoing sale! You can get an extra 10% off when you use the coupon code: Summer. What are you waiting for? Go find some cheap homecoming dresses and enjoy your reunion!

Extra tips:
1. Wear comfortable high heeled shoes. Just enough for you to walk around with. If you can’t wear a 4 inch shoes in 2 hours then don’t. You don’t want to go home with blisters.
2. Pick a neutral colored purse if you are wearing a bright colored dress or vice versa. You don’t want to appear too flashy.

Which of these cheap homecoming dresses do you find most appealing?